Wednesday, February 27, 2019

I Remember

Watching my child grow up is achingly painful. I look at old pictures and coo over how cute she was, but when I look at her wild hair and chubby cheeks, I remember so much more than how adorable she was back then.

I remember how much I was hurting.

I remember how I spent my pregnancy in the darkest of dark places, wishing that the parasite in my womb would kill me before it emerged.

I remember how I fumbled through her first few months, awkwardly trying to feel maternal but mostly just wondering why it was that she felt more like something that someone had shoved into my arms and told me to keep alive at all costs.

I remember trying to pretend that some part of me wasn't always detached from "motherhood."

I remember trying to remember who *I* was, as I struggled to be a good-enough-wife and not-horrible-mother.

I remember realizing how awful and wrong it was that my two year old was stroking my hair and patting and my back and telling me, "Mama, it's okay," while I sobbed to myself, claw marks on my arms as I tried to make my pain something that I could look at, even if only for a few minutes.

I remember trying to pretend that I wasn't completely changing her world, her life, by bringing her home - to my home - away from what she knew as home. Away from the man she still calls Baba, even though he doesn't call her, ever.

I remember telling myself that I was doing this for her, so that she could grow up healthier and happier, but knowing deep down that I was doing this for me. I was being selfish. I was doing this so that *I* would be happier.

I remember the exhilaration I felt, being away from him. I remember being so excited to take her to meet my friends, to go to the parks of my childhood, to pet the goats and have hot chocolate at Tim Horton's.

I remember still feeling guilty. Just a little.

I remember taking her to Malaysia, where we went to live with my parents.

I remember the highs - the daily happinesses of spending most nights snuggled between them, my daughter squishing herself in insistently, her little afro wilder than ever; our holidays to new places, our toes curling in the sand, my dad making her shriek with half-laughter, half-terror as he splashed water on her; our excursions to farmer's markets and local masaajid in Ramadan, my brothers keeping a watchful eye on her; when she would accompany me to my Islamic Studies classes and squeak shyly to Shaykh Isam; the blissfulness of being *me,* of having my family, of giving my child the security I once had.

I remember the lows. Arguments, tears, bitter words as I tried to make decisions for my - for her - future. Using her name as a defence, claiming that I wanted her to have something more than this unrealistic limbo. A part of me was still being selfish. A part of me believed it. Either way, there was too much anger, too many tears. I don't remember where she was, then. Probably safely playing with her toys, or splashing in the tub. I hope she doesn't remember my fights.

I remember the new chapter starting. Coming back to Canada, beginning anew. Rocky, at first - a flight that we were never allowed to board; a rush of panic; trying to find a place to live; the awkwardness of being a new wife, in unstable circumstances, with a child who didn't understand what was happening, not quite.

I remember that first apartment of my own. Our own. I cried a lot in those days, for different reasons. I hope she doesn't remember those tears, either.

I remember how we snuggled every night, just the two of us, her hair curling up into my nose.

I remember her cheerfulness every morning, her sternness over my wardrobe choices, her good-natured patience with my procrastination and fumbled attempts at adulting.

I remember the excitement of every Jumu'ah, as she and I burned bukhoor and ran out the door to catch the khutbah on time; the joy of seeing our friends at the masjid; the tradition we built for ourselves of bubble tea and treats and walking around downtown and then finally having dinner at my grandparents' house.

I remember how I would push her in the stroller, complaining about how heavy she was, trudging to the library. She ignored me and settled in even more firmly, smug in the knowledge that I would keep pushing.

I remember how I would jolt her out of that comfort and take her, for months at a time, to another country, another home. Another family. She liked her new siblings, mostly. She didn't like not being with me very much.

I remember desperately trying to figure things out, trying to impose my dream-ideas onto a very different reality - a confusing one, a frustrating one, a hurtful one, sometimes. It wasn't all bad, but it was new, and different, and I didn't really know what I was doing.

I remember not really being much of a mother. I remember more guilt, more knowledge that I was being selfish, more feelings of being too absorbed. Too many adult things happening. I hope she doesn't remember those days.

I remember the relief of going back to our apartment - and to our second one, after that. I remember she and I settling back in to our own rhythms, our back-and-forth banter, our almost-sibling sniping. I remember our baking - cupcakes and brownies and cookies. I remember Kindergarten and trying to feel like a Real Homeschooling Mom. I don't remember doing a very good job of it.

I remember putting her through more changes. More frustrations. More confusions. I was being selfish, I know. I hope she doesn't remember it.

I remember her first day of public school, my first day at work. More changes - not bad ones, necessarily. A new house - not just our apartment, now. She had full-time siblings now, and I had four more full-time children, and a full-time cowife. Not a full-time husband, though. A full-time struggle, not without its bright spots, but still.

I remember trying to learn how to be more of a mother to children who didn't see me as one. I remember my child's look of hurt as I doled out attempts at maternal affection and fairness to children who hadn't always been mine. I remember not knowing how to be the right kind of mother to anyone.

I remember slowly getting a grip on things - sometimes. I remember falling, many times. I remember my daughter saying, "I miss when it was just us and we lived by the ocean." I remember her saying, "You work too much." I remember her saying, "Do you love them more than me? You're always too busy."

I remember too many things that I wish I didn't.

But I also remember the other night, when she crawled into bed with me, and curled up around me, and I remembered maybe I can still make good memories. With her. For her.

Maybe when she grows up, and looks at the pictures, she'll remember me, being happy, with her.

I hope she remembers that.

Saturday, February 23, 2019

A Father's Advice

In the days when the pious walked the streets hand-in-hand with the penitent; and men veiled their faces out of modesty, knowing that their majesty could oft be too much temptation for the lioness-women who loved them, a wise father sat with his son on the night before his marriage.

"My son," he said tenderly, his beard streaked grey with the wisdom of his years, "Were it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice due to good manners and noble descent, then my words would be worthless, for you carry both within you. Yet this will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful and provide wisdom to the foolish."

“My son, if a man were able to do without a wife by virtue of his mother's care and his need for his mother's love, then you of all men would be most able to do without a wife: but men were created for women, just as women were created for men."

“My son, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to enter a new home, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, she has become your queen - so be like a noble attendant to her, and she will become a noble attendant to you."

"Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision for you in times of need, and a blessing for you in times of joy:

The first and second of them are: be content in her company, and listen to and please her, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and pleasing one's wife brings peace to one's heart.

The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; she should not see anything ugly from you, and she should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best most masculine of adornment to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.

The fifth and sixth of them are: provide her with food on time, and keep quiet when she is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing her sleep will destroy her well-being.

The seventh and eight of them are: take care of her servants and children, and be grateful to her, for she bears your children, and she sacrifices her body to feed them and care for them. Taking care of her servants and children shows that you are responsible towards her, and expressing your gratefulness to her shows that you are appreciative to her for her heart and her body. 

The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of her secrets, and never insult her or dismiss her; for if you disclose any of her secrets, you will never feel safe from her possible betrayal, and if you insult her, her heart will be filled with hatred towards you.

Be careful, my son, of showing joy in front of her when she is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of her when she is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make her unhappy."

"Verily, these are the wisdoms passed down from father to son: the words which, if followed, make a boy into a man, a rash youth into a worthy husband. No home will rent asunder, nor heart feel distress, so long as the young warriors of our tribe take these words to their chests, held closer than armour, more precious than any spoils of war."

- Tuhfat al-Arees, Naseeha lil Shabaab

Friday, February 22, 2019

Fiqh of Haydh notes

(Notes from Rabata.org's workshop on Fiqh of Haydh, featuring female scholars from each madh'hab.)

Spiritual Connectivity During Menstruation (Shehnaz Karim)

Allah created everything with meaning - including our menstrual cycles and other uniquely female bodily functions.

Being on our periods does not mean that we are disconnected from Allah or on a “vacation” from worshiping Allah.

There are many ways to worship during menses.

  • Strive to be at peace with the idea of menstruation and the rulings about with regards to ritual acts of worship
  • Use this time to contemplate our relationship with Allah, reflect on what it means to be connected to Allah outside of specific ritual actions.
  • An hour of tafakkur is better than 70 years of worship
  • Tafakkur has its own adab
  • Reflect on Allah’s blessings upon us; think about your own personal shortcomings; thank Allah for covering our faults and weaknesses - don’t be depressed by your weakness, but thank Allah for His Mercy on us; realize that nothing and no one can harm or benefit us except Allah.
  • Use this tafakkur as a means of rejuvenating you spiritually throughout the day. Build and develop an awareness of Allah in your everyday life.
  • Connect with Allah’s Name al-Khaaliq: the Creator. He created us with our menstrual cycles for a reason: it is unique to women, it is a part of how the human race procreates. Allah’s name arRahman: comes from ‘rahm,’ the womb - which is connected to our menstrual cycles. Allah has unconditional love and nurtures us accordingly; we, as women, have the unique potential to also have unconditional love and nurturing.
  • Allah’s Mercy is also manifested in the rulings surrounding menses: we do not pray or fast, so that we may rest, eat and drink - we are to nurture our bodies.

Shafi’i Fiqh of Menses (Anse Marah Dahman)

Definition of Haydh:
The flow of blood from the vagina, excluding post-partum bleeding and vaginal bleeding due to illness or other medical factors.

Istihaadha: any vaginal bleeding that is not post-partum bleeding or menstrual bleeding. (E.g. bleeding post-IUD-insertion; irregular bleeding due to PCOS.)

Colour: Literally any colour whatsoever. Pink, red, orange, black, brown.

Minimum age: 9 lunar years; no maximum age.

Shortest menstrual cycle: One day and one night (24 hours).

Maximum length of cycle: 15 days and nights.

Minimum period of taharah: 15 days and nights

Prohibitions During Haydh
  • Obligatory ghusl (??)
  • Salah
  • Tawaf
  • Fasting
  • Touching mus’haf or holding it
  • Staying in the masjid
  • Intercourse
  • Divorce


Is my period over?
  • Any colour before white discharge at end of period still counts as menstrual blood
  • Even if white but has pink bits in it - still your period
  • Go by your *usual* cycle - if you are someone who has regular patterns/ times/ cycle
  • If not sure, self-swab. (Q-tips, tampon, cotton strip/rag.)
  • White or clear discharge indicates end of period
  • Any yellow/ beige etc after white discharge is not considered period
  • If you tend to have very little discharge in general and are dry for a day, with no bleeding - self swab to check for any potential blood.
  • Wait for a MAXIMUM of one day to determine no more blood.
  • Some say wait for a maximum of three fardh prayers; if nothing, then do your ghusl and pray.

Istihaadha:

  • Any non-menstrual, non-post-partum bleeding
  • Various reasons for it: medical condition, or something like IUD insertion
  • Can have various colours/ flows. Can be similar to menstrual blood, or could be totally different.
  • Even if it seems like menstrual blood, does not count as menses unless it is taking place within what is normally considered your cycle. (E.g. if your maximum menstrual cycle is 7 days, count it as 7 days - anything after, consider as istihaadhah.)
  • You are still considered taahir. You pray, fast, have intercourse, etc.
  • Any bleeding that exceeds 15 days is automatically istihaadha
  • If you did not pray or fast during days of istihaadha, you MUST make up those prayers and fasting
  • If your cycle changes due to a big difference in your life - e.g. IUD, illness - and you aren’t yet sure of new menstrual pattern, then you can take one month as an “experimental” one - keep track of the bleeding and any changes that take place, try to match what is normally part of your cycle (in terms of patterns, consistency, etc). You are not sinful for not praying/fasting days that turn out to be istihaadha but you were originally unsure due to major changes. Just ensure that you make up those prayers and fasts!
  • If you bleed again BEFORE 15 days of tahaarah have been completed, it is still considered istihaadha. E.g. spotting during ovulation
  • If you bleed again AFTER 15 days of tahaarah, but considered ‘early’ for your period - consider it your period.
  • Use a calendar! There are also lots of menstrual apps that allow you to add notes so that you can keep track of details. Or, keep a menstrual journal.
  • Do a fresh wudhu for every fardh salah. Then you can pray as much as you want with that wudhu, within that time period (e.g. sunan, qiyaam), until you nullify your wudhu through ‘normal’ means.


Miscellaneous:

  • If your period ends while you are somewhere that you have no access to showers for ghusl, you can do tayammum instead of ghusl, and then do wudhu if you have access to a sink - so that you can catch a prayer on time. (If you are not home, but at a mall, it is time for salah, your period definitely ended - do tayammum, then do wudhu in the bathroom sink, and pray.)


Hanafi Fiqh (Farzana Chowdhury)

Haydh: Blood which flows from the womb of a mature female, that is not the result of illness, pregnancy, and not post-menopausal.

Earliest age: 9

Minimum duration: 3 days (72 hours)

Maximum duration: 10 days (240 hours)

Colours: Red, yellow, black, green, muddy/ earth-toned.

Starts: When blood leaves the vagina and exits the labia minora even if it hasn’t exited the labia majora. If you put a tampon and blood comes out, BUT there has been no blood *outside* the vagina, haydh has not started.
  • Any coloured discharge during days of haydh counts as menstruation, until the white discharge of tahaara.
  • Even if you have a ‘dry day’ during your cycle, if still within the 10 day menstruation limit, it still counts as menstruation - you still don’t pray.
  • Minimum time duration of tahaarah is 15 days
  • No maximum duration of tahaarah, even if for many months or years

Understanding/determining a regular cycle

  • Determined by number of days of normal bleeding and duration of purity from previous month
  • Use a calendar/app!
  • Your cycle can change. Keep track of previous month!
  • If you have a roughly regular cycle and then end up bleeding extraneously beyond that, the days past your previous longest cycle are now considered istihaadha. E.g. for three months your cycle has been 4-6 days, in the fourth month, you bleed for 10 days - from day 7 and onwards, those days are now considered istihaadha and not haydh.

Prohibitions

  • No salah.
  • No sajdah shukr or tilaawah.
  • If praying a fardh and then period starts, the salah is invalidated and no need to make up. If praying a sunnah or naafilah, then salah is invalidated and it must be made up later.
  • If bleeding begins at the end of a prayer time and you haven’t prayed it yet, you are not obliged to make up that prayer.
  • No fasting
  • All obligatory fasts (from Ramadan) must be made up
  • If bleeding begins while fasting, the fast is invalidated and it must be made up - this applies to both obligatory or voluntary fasting
  • If you stop bleeding before Fajr, in the night of Ramadan,after 10 days have passed, even if it’s one single minute before Fajr, you must fast that upcoming day.
  • If you stop bleeding during the day of Ramadan, the fast doesn’t count, but you must uphold the conditions of fasting.
  • If you stop bleeding before Fajr, in the night of Ramadan, *before* 10 days have passed - and have enough time to do ghusl and say takbir of Fajr - then you fast that day.
  • If you stop bleeding before Fajr, in the night of Ramadan, *before* 10 days have passed - but do NOT have time to do ghusl - then you must behave like a fasting person, but the fast does not count, and you must make it up.
  • Cannot touch the mus’haf
  • Permissible to touch the mus’haf with a cloth etc. - any covering/ barrier that is not attached to the mus’haf
  • Not permissible to touch the mus’haf with any part of your garment (e.g. portion of sleeve, from your dress). Gloves don’t count.
  • Not allowed to recite Qur’an, not even a single ayah
  • Permissible to recite a verse as part of du’a, as long as the ayah itself contains words indicative of du’a - permissible to recite Surah Fatiha as du’a
  • If a teacher of Qur’an, can spell out each word slowly but cannot recite the ayaat
  • Permissible to do dhikr, salawaat on RasulAllah
  • Tawaaf is not allowed
  • Not allowed to enter the masjid
  • A musalla that is not a masjid, is permissible to enter
  • No sex
  • Navel to knee must be covered in front of spouse
  • Permissible to have sex without doing ghusl first IF the period lasted full 10 days/nights; and if prayer time ended in which she was obligated to pray, but did not (she is sinful for not praying tho).
  • If menstrual cycle changes to become shorter than previous one, even though she does ghusl and prays and fasts etc. she cannot have sex until the duration of previous cycle has been met.

End of haydh
  • White/clear discharge
  • If, within 10 days, after doing ghusl and starting to pray, you bleed again - delay your next ghusl until the end of the Mustahabb time of next salah. E.g. you shower and pray Dhuhr, then find more blood - wait until end of Mustahabb time of Asr, check for white/clear discharge. Then do ghusl and pray. If still bleeding, is considered haydh still (until 10 days have passed).
  • You don’t have to take out braids for menstrual ghusl as long as water reaches roots of hair.

Miscellaneous
  • If in state of janaabah when your period starts, you’re not obligated to do ghusl for it until your period is over
  • Makruh for menstruating woman to do ghusl for deceased person
  • If menstruating and hear verse of prostration, you don’t do sajdah tilaawah
  • Mustahabb to do wudhu, sit in your usual prayer place, and do dhikr during that time

Istihaadha
  • Blood outside of menstruation, less than three days or more than ten days
  • Nullifies wudhu
  • If you’re bleeding constantly such that you can’t do wudhu or pray without still bleeding, you are considered ma’dhur.
  • Ma’dhur does one wudhu for each prayer, can pray and read Qur’an etc during the duration of that prayer time
  • Excused amount of blood on a ma’dhur’s clothing is equal to or less than 4 cm
  • Makruh tahrimi for someone to pray in clothing with more blood than that
  • Constant yellow discharge breaks wudhu
  • Condition for continuation of being ma’dhur is that there is blood at least once during every subsequent prayer time
  • No longer ma’dhur if one entire prayer time has passed and you have not bled at all

Exceptional cases:
  • If one has continual dysfunctional uterine bleeding and no longer knows the regular number of days for her menstrual cycle, she takes three days at the estimated time of her cycle and does not pray, fast, etc. Those three days are considered to be absolutely menstruation.
For the next seven days after that, must take a ghusl for each salah. With each prayer, she will also pray a makeup of the previous prayer, in case she was in a state of menstruation without knowing it (during the time of the previous prayer). For the next 20 days after that, a new wudhu for each prayer is required, but she is considered to be in absolute state of purity.
  • If one knows the regular number of days of her cycle, but forgets the TIME of it: she prays for X number of days with fresh wudhu for each prayer. The next 26 days, must do a ghusl for each prayer, plus makeup for previous prayer.


Hanbali Fiqh (Dr Haifaa Younis)

Haydh: The natural, free flowing blood from the womb of a healthy female, during a known and regular time.

Prohibitions:
  • Salah
  • Fasting
  • Tawaf
  • Reading Qur’an by moving the lips. Exception: if you are already haafidhah; if you are in the process of becoming haafidhah; if you are a teacher.
  • Touching the mus’haf without a barrier. WITH a barrier (gloves etc) is permissible
  • Staying in the masjid. Newer fatawah: Permissible if you can guarantee that you are not going to soil the masjid itself with your blood.
  • Divorce during menstruation is not valid and does not count

Haydh obligates:
  • Bulugh (puberty) - first menstrual cycles mean you are now legally Shar’an an adult
  • Ghusl at the end of menstruation
  • Divorce becomes permissible as soon as haydh ends, even before ghusl takes place
  • Making up missed obligatory fasts after period is over
  • Marks the the beginning of ‘iddah
Minimum age: 9 years
  • If a girl bleeds before age 9, it does not count as haydh

Maximum age: Menopause.
  • Generally between the ages of 50 and 60

Colours: Black, red, yellow, brownish/ grey

Minimum duration of haydh: 24 hours (one day and one night)
Maximum duration of haydh: 15 days
Minimum duration of tahaarah: 13 days

A man came to Ali ibn Abi Talib and said, “My wife has three periods in the month. Is that possible?”
Ali said: “Are you sure this is what she has?”
He said: “Yes.”
Ali turned to his companions and asked, “Is this man trustworthy?” They said, “Yes.”
Ali said: “Yes, she can have three periods in the month.”
(Narrated by Bukhari)

Potentially, could have a one or two day period that recurs every 13 days.

Is it over?
  • Blood has ended, with or without white discharge - complete dryness OR white discharge
  • 3 opinions about what ‘white discharge’ means: 1) the pad/tampon comes out white/clean when you swab/ wipe; 2) actual white discharge; 3) bleeding has ended.

Rulings
  • Cycle can change with age/ factors such as travel, birth control etc
  • The first time your cycle changes, go by your normal cycle - the extra days are istihaadha.
  • If the change becomes consistent for three months, this now establishes a new regular pattern, and the extra days DO count as menstruation.
  • If period changes to become shorter, then it is considered to end when the bleeding ends/ usual signs of end of period.
  • “Dry days” between the usual days of period/within 15 days: 2 opinions.
1) All of it is considered your period (minority opinion within Hanaabila)
2) Take ghusl when the bleeding stops, pray etc. then stop when bleeding begins again. Add the bleeding days together, any days of bleeding that exceed 15 days is now considered istihaadha.
  • For first time period: First 24 hours are considered her period, until 3 months have passed and a regular cycle has been established.
  • Birth control and other medical to delay or decrease periods etc. are all considered permissible as long as not harmful for you
  • Regarding regular discharge post-menses: older fataawah said it breaks wudhu; newer fataawah say no, does not invalidate wudhu.
  • Intimacy allowed as long as there is a covering/barrier between the two spouses/ navel to knee should be covered.
  • If in tawaaf and you have vaginal discharge, it is recommended to do leave and do wudhu and come back; but permissible to simply continue the tawaaf.
  • If period begins before Tawaaf al-Ifaadha - wait until the day you have to leave, then perform it.
  • If period begins within a salah/ salah time, you do not have to make up the prayer.


Istihaadha
  • Any non-menstrual and non-post-partum vaginal bleeding
  • Continuous blood flow
  • Often differentiated from menstrual blood by being fresher/ brighter red; menstrual blood is usually dark, thick, has a stronger smell, often clots.
  • Bleeding during pregnancy is NOT period

Miscarriage:
  • Any blood post-miscarriage (if the fetus had any evidence of ‘human creation’) is considered nifaas.
  • Very early miscarriage, only clotting - not nifaas. Considered istihaadha.


Maliki Fiqh (Mona Elzankaly)

Haydh: All blood, yellow or watery pus/discharge, or murky brown discharge that exits on its own from the vagina of a woman who could normally become pregnant.
  • It must come from the vagina - not anus or urethra
  • It has to exit on its own - e.g. not due to pap smear
  • Bleeding before age 9 or after age 70 is not considered menstruation
  • Between ages 9 and 13, and between age 50 and 70, women are consulted to see if it’s seen as menstruation
  • Between ages 13 and 50, definitely considered menstruation

Women are divided into 3 categories:
  • Beginner - her cycle has just begun, first time
  • Experienced - has had at least one cycle
  • Pregnant. Even if a pregnant woman bleeds, one day of blood is seen as a day of menstruation.
Minimum duration of period: One drop of blood - even one drop in the day, the entire day is considered menstruation.

Maximum duration:
  • Beginner: 15 days
  • Experienced: Depends on her previous longest cycle she’s ever had, plus 3 more days. Absolute maximum is 15 days. E.g. Regular cycle is 5 days. Maximum one can go to for current cycle is 8 days (5+3).
  • Pregnant: Within first two months, same as an experienced woman. After third month to sixth month, up to twenty days. After sixth month, up to thirty days.

One day = from Maghrib to Maghrib.

No maximum days of tahaarah; 15 days minimum between cycles.

If one has a cycle where you bleed for X number of days, then dry for X number of days - you do ghusl, pray and fast on the dry days; then you stop when bleeding begins again. Add up all the days of bleeding to get the total number of days for your cycle - they cannot exceed 15 days. Once it exceeds 15 days, any blood afterwards is istihaadha. For a new cycle to begin, there must be 15 consecutive days of tahaarah.

E.g. A’s cycle is 5 days. Then it stops for 3 days. Then it she bleeds again for another 5 days.
She must do ghusl, pray and fast etc. for the 3 dry days. They do NOT count towards the 15 days of tahaarah. For the next 5 days of bleeding, only 3 of those days are considered haydh (due to maximum per that cycle); the next 2 days are istihaadhah. Those 2 days are considered part of the minimum 15 days of tahaarah.
The adding of extra 3 days to previous longest cycle is called “istidh’haar.”

End of period:
  • Thick white or clear discharge
  • Dryness (no bleeding
  • Reaching maximum cycle days
  • Check at the beginning of each prayer time to see if bleeding has ended
  • Disliked to get up before Fajr to check - used to be practise of Bani Isra’eel - but check *at* Fajr time
  • If you check at Dhuhr time and you still have blood, then check at Asr and you are clean - you will pray both Dhuhr and Asr; same for Maghrib and Isha

Istihaadha
  • If there is bleeding for less than half a prayer day (e.g. occasional spotting), it breaks the wudhu and you must make fresh wudhu
  • If there is bleeding for more than half a prayer day (regular bleeding/flow), it does not break wudhu but recommended to renew it
  • If it is constant, then it does not break wudhu and you don’t need to renew wudhu

Prohibitions of menstruation:
  • Salah
  • Fasting
  • Tawaaf
  • Touching the mus’haf. Exceptions: She can recite from memory (or a book that has translation or commentary of the Qur’an); if a student of Qur’an or a teacher, may touch the mus’haf with that specific intention in mind.
  • Sajdah Tilaawah and Sajdah Shukr
  • Entering the masjid and even passing through it (unless life or death situation)
  • Talaq - impermissible to do but valid once issued
  • Intercourse - must cover from navel to the knees, cannot touch private parts


Miscellaneous:

  • Discharge from yeast infection does not nullify wudhu